Library Resources with Intermediate Skill Level

If you ask for or give empathy and are met with accusations of codependency, there are a number of things you can do to check that you are coming from a place of healthy differentiation. You can see if you're doing so from a place of healthy differentiation -- and notice signs of healthy differentiation when you offer empathy. You can also bring a profound respect for differences, and clear boundaries. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration Read time: 4- 6 minutes
  • Production Date 08/2020
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  • Points 1
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Many believe it's only a true NVC request when we can ask for what we need without urgency or insistence. But what if we're the target of oppression and hate in a world with systemic inequality? Is it still nonviolence to abdicate power by allowing the person enacting harm to be the one to decide whether harm continues? The intensity of the need, degree of harm, and how chronically unmet the need is, are factors to guide us for when to apply force and demand within NVC. We can be attached to outcome, without being attached to strategy.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 5 - 8 minutes
  • Production Date 11/2020
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  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Trainer Tip: Is there something you would like more of in your life right now? Try not to look to other people to provide the kind of experiences you want. Can you think of a way that you can be the change you seek? See if responding to the people the way you would want them to respond to you shifts something. Read on for an example of how.

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  • Skill Level Introductory Skill Level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Production Date 10/2005
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  • Points 2
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Published in Trainer Tips
For us to have a more peaceful world and relationships, growing our skills to engage interdependently is key. An interdependence-oriented person may choose to attend to both inner factors and outer factors that affect their own and others' experiences. Unfortunately, this is likely to be misunderstood by independence-oriented people as enmeshment -- and this is where conflict emerges. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration Read time: 3 - 5 minutes
  • Production Date 08/2020
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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What we refer to as "selfishness" is action taken without concern for the impact or cost of that action. Self-responsibility, on the other hand, includes actively living from the truth of interdependence, care for your and others needs, thriving of all, and more. We can access clarity of self care when we have open flexibility, curiosity, and responsiveness. Read on for more on the indicators and attributes of each of these distinctions.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration Read time: 6 - 9 minutes
  • Production Date 11/2020
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 3
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Worthlessness and shame are linked to the idea of not belonging or being unworthy of belonging -- that is, a deep sense of belonging to life, to your sense of self, and to our earth. Compensatory strategies to win worthiness and belonging arise from here and effectively block the very thing it is pursuing. Transformation occurs when there is a critical mass of clarity about the harm of a particular way of thinking and behaving.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
  • Production Date 03/2020
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  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Resentment is one sign that you need a boundary. You can set a boundary by requesting the behavior that would be most meaningful to you. Include why that behavior would be meaningful to you and share vulnerably. Then notice if you are holding any blame and ask yourself, “What do I need to feel underneath my blame?” If you can take responsibility for those feelings with compassion, the other person is more likely to collaborate.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 3 - 5 minutes
  • Production Date 07/2019
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  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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When someone responds with painful sarcasm, criticism, or dismissal you can respond with empathy, or with clarity about your intention, need and request. If you're unable to do this, later you can privately write what they said, identify the feelings and needs of both of you, then write possible responses. This can help you remember to stay with your intention and what’s true for you without getting caught in defensiveness or reactivity.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 3 - 5 minutes
  • Production Date 09/2019
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Find renewed aliveness and connection in your daily life through NVC and Buddhist Mindfulness practices. NVC can be lived as a Mindfulness Practice and consciousness that helps us be more present, open and loving to the flow of life within ourselves and in relation to others. Buddhist principles and practices can add depth and insight to NVC practice and consciousness.

The first session is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration 6 - 8 hours
  • Production Date 4/5/2017
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  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 2
Published in Audio
In times of stress, some part of you may still hold the belief that you can't be present for the stressor and survive. Some part of you may believe you have to go away. There are three things you can consider when attempting to intervene with the reactive pattern of shutting down: how you relate to the shutting down, access to self-confidence, and engagement. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration Read time: 3- 5 minutes
  • Production Date 09/2020
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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