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Making Requests and Avoiding Demands

Practice Exercise • 5 - 10 minutes • 7/18/2021
All Skill Levels
Practice Exercise
5 - 10 minutes
7/18/2021
Sylvia Haskvitz offers a practical and effective approach to making requests. Learn the two questions that can clarify your motivation for making a request, three ways to discern a request from a demand, and five possible reasons for meeting requests.

Crafting Connection Requests

Practice Exercise • 2 - 3 minutes • 10/03/2021
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
2 - 3 minutes
10/03/2021
Try this four step exercise for making connection requests to support understanding, and to learn what effect your words had on the listener. In this exercise you'll choose a situation where you have clarity about what outcome will really work for you (your solution request),…

Wishing For More Maturity & Skill In Others

Practice Exercise • 3-5 minutes • 12/2/2021
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
3-5 minutes
12/2/2021
In some situations you might expect people to show a degree of maturity or skill. When they don't, your anger-fueled response doesn't lead to lasting improved relationship change. Instead, find someone who retains focus on your feelings and needs rather than colluding with you about…

Getting Past the Parenting "Shoulds": Compassionate Parenting Starts With Self-Acceptance

Practice Exercise • 3 - 5 minutes • 11/16/2021
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
3 - 5 minutes
11/16/2021
Without self-acceptance any attempt at growth and transformation, even while parenting, can easily become a path to self-judgments and another yardstick against which to measure ourselves as falling short. Instead, we can practice 1 minute a day or more, or while doing other tasks, to…

Exercise For Saying "No" And Staying Connected

Practice Exercise • 1 - 2 minutes • 12/23/2021
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
1 - 2 minutes
12/23/2021
Ever have a hard time saying "no" to someone, or feel obligated to say yes? Here's an exercise that can help you notice where you are placing yourself as someone who "has to" say yes; the needs in the other person making the request; what…

Working With “No” To Deepen Self-Connection

Practice Exercise • 1 - 2 minutes • 1/29/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
1 - 2 minutes
1/29/2022
Use this exercise to stay in dialogue and connect to needs while facing a “no”. Identify a situation where you have low confidence that you'll get your needs met, and it'll be hard hearing a “no” to your request. Explore your response to the “no”…

Applying Mindful Compassionate Dialogue To Violence In Ukraine

Practice Exercise • 12 -17 mins • 03/08/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
12 -17 mins
03/08/2022
How to maintain conscious connection and compassion as you grapple with the tragic violence in Ukraine? Here we'll look at dissolving enemy images we have, inviting mourning, maintaining self connection that benefits our global community, creating ideas for action, acknowledging the power of what we…

Six Ways That Support You Being Heard

Practice Exercise • 6 - 9 minutes • 12/30/2021
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
6 - 9 minutes
12/30/2021
When you don't have a sense of being heard you can apply skills to help you can interrupt cycles of reactivity and resentment, and create connection. Let's look at six ways that will support you in being heard. These are clarity about the topic and…

Working With Anger: An Exercise

Practice Exercise • 2 -3 minutes • 12/22/2021
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
2 -3 minutes
12/22/2021
Fully connecting to the deeper need under the anger can transform and release the anger, without requiring the other person to do anything differently. From there, you can reach an understanding of the other person's experience, feelings and needs underlying the actions that stimulated your…

Integrating Inner And Outer

Practice Exercise • 1-2 minutes • 1/17/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
1-2 minutes
1/17/2022
This exercise brings forth presence, awareness, and witnessing regarding what you observe. And also the inner form of experiencing: thinking, feeling, sensing, longing, and noticing any inner resistance. This exercise is designed to allow self-compassion to clear the inner space, and to help you feel…

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