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Commitment

Commitment

Commitment

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
Do you ever give up on disagreements, temporarily or permanently? Do you ever disengage from conflict because you’re certain the situation can't be resolved? Sometimes this applies. And consider how you may be giving up too soon, which decreases the possibility for resolution. This speaks to your level of commitment. How committed are you to valuing another’s needs and to finding resolution?
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Getting Your Needs Met

Getting Your Needs Met

Getting Your Needs Met

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
We can ask for what we want but if we repeatedly don’t get it from one source, it's our responsibility to find a new way to get it. We don’t honor our relationships when we insist that people who are unavailable or unwilling to support us meet our needs. Read on for related a parable about a woman persistently asking to get milk from a hardware store.
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The Value of Just Being

The Value of Just Being

The Value of Just Being

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • N/A • 
Trainer Tip
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When it comes to how you're achieving your goals, notice what you value. Is achievement coming at others' expense? Where is your sense of worth and validation derived from? Do other people in some way set the bar that you strive to surpass? Without comparing to other people, what does success mean to you? Read on for a related story.
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Taking the First Step

Taking the First Step

Taking the First Step

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: If you're doing personal growth work, and changing your behaviors, you may find yourself wanting others to join your efforts with similar levels of enthusiasm. When they don't do so, you may feel frustrated and place judgments on them, thinking they aren't as caring. You'll be less likely to feel disappointed in people if you remind yourself that when you do personal growth work,...
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When We Need Empathy the Most

When We Need Empathy the Most

When We Need Empathy the Most

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: On a scale of 1 to 10, how is your emotional bank account? If it’s lower than you like, consider what you can do right now to bring it closer to balance. Everyone in your life, and most especially you, will benefit from this. Even 15 mins of empathy may nourish you with accompaniment and perspective, even when the issues or circumstances in your life are the same.
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Acknowledging Other People’s Reality

Acknowledging Other People’s Reality

Acknowledging Other People’s Reality

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Even if we don't agree, acknowledging others' realities can help demonstrate that we're including their feelings and needs in the conversation. Creating space for your reality and theirs can also bring a sense of connection, understanding, inclusion, abundance and fullness in life. Try it today. Read on for an example.
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Timing of a request

Timing of a request

Timing of a request

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Stating our observations, feelings and needs can still be heard as criticism if we don't follow it up right away with a specific, doable request. Ending your statement with a request for what you want can clarify the situation and reduce the chances that you'll be met with defensiveness. Read on for an example.
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Staying in the Present

Staying in the Present

Staying in the Present

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Usually if we are in anguish, it’s because we’re not in the present. Instead of worrying, look to see if there is an action you can take in the present moment that will help change the situation. If you're fretting about the past, see if there's anything you can do to rectify the situation. Then take action. Read on for examples.
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Communicating Our Deepest Desires

Communicating Our Deepest Desires

Communicating Our Deepest Desires

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: When we "protect" ourselves by not asking for what we want, we block ourselves from getting our needs met. From here, disappointment and resentment can build -- especially if this is a pattern. Instead, notice when you're tempted to do this, and be honest and upfront about what you want to improve the quality of your relationships.
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Love Trumps Everything

Love Trumps Everything

Love Trumps Everything

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: When looking for a solution take the time to consider and connect to other's needs rather than just focusing on getting what you want. Such a basic shift in consciousness can make a profound difference in your relationships, both personal and professional. Notice how you feel afterward.
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Change Your Thoughts to Change Your World

Change Your Thoughts to Change Your World

Change Your Thoughts to Change Your World

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Changing your thoughts can change the way people experience you. Just for today, see if you can notice when you have judgmental thoughts about yourself or other people. Then look to translate those thoughts into your feelings and needs. Read on for an example of how this works.
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Evaluating Ourselves with Compassion

Evaluating Ourselves with Compassion

Evaluating Ourselves with Compassion

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Every time you criticize yourself, you cause yourself to feel shame and guilt, which promotes depression and stagnation. Instead, bringing in more self compassion can increase opportunities for change. Do this by acknowledging your needs (or values) that aren’t met by your actions. Read on for how to do this.
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Being the Change We Seek

Being the Change We Seek

Being the Change We Seek

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Is there something you would like more of in your life right now? Try not to look to other people to provide the kind of experiences you want. Can you think of a way that you can be the change you seek? See if responding to the people the way you would want them to respond to you shifts something. Read on for an example of how.
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