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Can the Social Order Be Transformed Through Personal Practice? - Part 2

Article  • 18 - 27 minutes • 02/2020
All Skill Levels
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18 - 27 minutes

We can't alone (nor with lone communities) transform the hidden structures of violence and domination. Dialogue alone isn't disruptive enough. We can easily be in dialogue with Trump supporters while the planet burns up, millions are still hungry, and we go extinct. NVC seriously risks reinforcing vast inequities and abuses if we're not radically engaging systemic constraints, and impacts of our choices that go beyond our immediate circle. Read on for ways to leverage NVC practices to expand true social change.


Catch Unhealthy Relationship Dynamics Early

Article  • 4-6 minutes • 05/2019
Advanced Skill Level
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4-6 minutes

Little negative impacts can become big when left unattended. Watch for things like using a sharp tone, choosing not to share something, going along with something when you don’t really want to, trying to convince your partner, impulsively turning away, shrinking, losing access to parts of yourself, hiding, daydreaming about a different life, and judgmental thoughts. Instead, shift the dynamic: take responsibility, provide empathy, and commit to change.


Moving from Fault to Cause: Looking for Systemic Solutions to White Supremacy

Article  • 13 - 19 minutes • 09/2017
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13 - 19 minutes

We can see throughout many examples in history that when we look for "who" is at fault, and thereby seek social change through shaming that person (or that group), it tends to lead to disastrous long term consequences. Even if it works in the short term. Instead, if we want to end cycles of violence we can seek to understand systemic causes and context of individuals' behaviour. And from there, look for solutions that stem from this understanding.


When Effects Are Invisible: From Comfort to Freedom

Article  • 13 - 19 minutes • 10/2021
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13 - 19 minutes

While so many of us know how close we are to the edge of global catastrophe and want change, what makes the existing global system continue to function with our ongoing participation? Read on for more on the challenges and path towards learning to steward life and all the resources of this one planet for the benefit of all.


Ego, Mind, and Culture

Article  • 10 - 15 minutes • 11/2013
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10 - 15 minutes

The “mind” or our “ego” are often depicted as a static entity, an unchangable part of human nature, and as obstacles or negative parts of ourselves to overcome. This view creates maligning, a split within us, while remaining invisibly part and parcel of authority-based societies --the dominant culture and institutions into which we are born. Instead, I want to advocate an integration of reason and emotion, mind and heart, plus self and others.


The Radical Act of Reclaiming Attention

Article  • 5 - 8 minutes • 06/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5 - 8 minutes

Given all that we are facing today as a society and a species, amongst some of the things we need is a well nourished heart. To nourish our hearts we need to discern where to wisely put our attention. Here are three practices to reclaim your attention, and replenish your reserves, so that you have the inner resources to do the work that is calling you.  They are: train the mind, nourish the heart, and stay connected to purpose.


Holding Dilemmas Together in the Workplace

Article  • 11 - 16 minutes • 2/2013
All Skill Levels
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11 - 16 minutes

When we are transparent about our concerns, brainstorm solutions together, and look towards making a decision with the other person, we can increase understanding, partnership, and mutual support. This invites people to work on the same issue from the same direction, collaboratively seek solutions, and tap a deeper wisdom. In the end, the future survival of our species depends on this kind of active interdependence.


Steps Towards Meaningful Action

Article  • 4 - 6 minutes • 07/2019
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes

We're in difficult times - possibly at the brink of extinction. What can we do in response? Some nonlinear steps: A.) Notice what isn't working; B.) Mourn so that we can move "towards" from an expanded space inside; C.) Analyze to bring a fuller understanding of what's happening and what's needed; D.) Reframe our inner and outer narratives; E.) Discern what we can contribute; F.) Care; and G.) Bring in support for more resilience and creativity.


Privilege and Needs - Part 2

Article  • 4 - 6 minutes • 11/2010
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4 - 6 minutes

What is it that we are taught we can’t have, and what is it that we are encouraged to pursue instead? This guide could help you see through what's hidden behind the curtain of our societal conditioning.


Privilege and Needs - Part 1

Article  • 4 - 6 minutes • 06/2011
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes

There's the real need. And then there's the privilege that’s offered as a substitute for it. Privilege substitutes support the existing structure of society. It can look to us as if giving up the privilege would amount to giving up everything -- if we don't believe the real needs can even be experienced. If we connected directly to the needs, we could become subversive, agents of change.