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Helping Another Find Willingess

Article •  4-6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
4-6 minutes

Is there someone you wish was more willing? Try guessing what obstacles they might be struggling with. And allow yourself to feel your grief. As you grapple with your own desire for someone to find their willingness, its essential to recognize that this is about you and your needs. You can also express your needs honestly, make requests for how to collaborate, and be responsive to what they want. Read on for more on this, plus four common ways someone’s willingness might be blocked.


Working With “No” To Deepen Self-Connection

Practice Exercise •  1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
1 - 2 minutes

Use this exercise to stay in dialogue and connect to needs while facing a “no”. Identify a situation where you have low confidence that you'll get your needs met, and it'll be hard hearing a “no” to your request. Explore your response to the “no” by working with feelings, needs, request and alternate strategies. Thus you can work towards meeting your needs while also releasing the idea that your needs “have to” be met.


Effective Collaboration

Video •  43 minutes

Video
43 minutes

Watch Jim and Jori Manske in this video as they share three key learnings about collaborating effectively.