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Enemy Images Process and Exercise

with Jeff Brown
Practice Exercise  • N/A • Circa 2007
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
N/A

Ask the Trainer: "What guidance do you have for working with enemy images? Can you say some things about processes and/or exercises that can bring relief from this trap?"


Making Demands

Trainer Tip  • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

When we ask something of a person and threaten negative repercussions if she doesn’t comply, we're making a demand. Demands limit the possible responses and reduce joyful participation. Instead, look to find mutually satisfying resolutions. And look for ways to change your demand into a request. Read on for more.


Getting Out of Ourselves

Trainer Tip  • 1 - 2 minutes • 06/10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: NVC asks us to be aware of our needs and discomfort is evidence of an unment need. However focusing on ourselves when we're uncomfortable isn't always the best choice.


The Sweetest Game in Town: Contributing Without Praise

Trainer Tip  • 2-3 minutes • 05/2009
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2-3 minutes

Inbal answers a parent's question about praise and offers a perspective on how praise translates into the NVC framework.


Every Angry Message is a "Please"

Trainer Tip  • 1-2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Anger can be an opportunity to hear the "Please" behind the words and create a path to resolve conflicts compassionately.


Move in to Conflict - Don't Back Up!

Trainer Tip  • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Have you ever noticed how often we back up when we find ourselves in a conflict? Or how much we try to pull away when someone is angry or in emotional pain?


The Needs Underneath a Need for “Fairness”

Trainer Tip  • 2 - 3 minutes • Circa 2007
Advanced Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes

Ask the Trainer: "I'm practicing with 'transforming the pain of unmet needs into the beauty of the need.' In identifying my unmet needs, I come up with 'fairness.' However, fairness isn't on the needs list! I'm wondering what needs might be underneath 'fairness.'"


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