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Key Facts About Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

Article  • 7 pages • 03/2009
Introductory Skill Level
Article
7 pages

Learn how Nonviolent Communication (NVC) can improve the quality of your personal and professional relationships, one interaction at a time.


Nonviolent Communication Basics

Article  • 4 - 6 minutes • 07/2017
All Skill Levels
Article
4 - 6 minutes

Here are some very basic forms and distinctions of NVC. It covers the 4 D's, OFNR, some NVC distinctions, tips, quotes from Marshall Rosenberg, and "feelings and needs" lists, and more. As with any art, these rudiments necessarily must be learned, practiced, understood, embodied and then let go of so as not to become rote and block creativity.


Making Requests for Respect

Article  • 3 - 5 minutes • 07/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes

When asking for respect it helps to first get clear about your interpretations of other's behavior. You can do this by asking about the other's intentions before believing your thoughts. You can also make a clear request for what specifically you want to see happen instead. Read on for more.


Lonely Together

Article  • 5 - 7 minutes • 05/2020
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5 - 7 minutes

When conflict or criticism occurs, we can notice two layers of meaning to create connection: the content and the needs the speaker is holding. When we are able to recognize this --and ideally engage open-heartedly, with curiosity, make clear requests, imagining what they want, no matter how their expression was framed -- we have more opportunity to support the longevity of our relationships, and to decrease our loneliness when together.


Distinguishing Life-Serving Boundaries From Requests

Article  • 3-5 minutes • 05/2020
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
3-5 minutes

For effective dialogue clarify your needs, boundaries, and requests beforehand. Setting boundaries is telling someone what you're going to do in order to meet or protect needs for yourself or others. Whereas with requests, even if you have preferences, you still hold open curiosity about strategies to collaborate with others in meeting needs. Read on for more.


Honor Your Need to be Heard

Article  • 2-3 minutes • 04/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Article
2-3 minutes

When you want to be heard, first check if your listener is available. This honors yourself, and the other person’s choice about listening. You need to be clear about wanting a particular quality of listening, and that you are willing to wait if that isn’t available in the moment. Read on for how to ask for listening in a way that can build trust that your request isn't a demand.


Requests in a Moment of Reactivity

Article  • 3-5 minutes • 05/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3-5 minutes

Here are 16 helpful requests you can make before you're swept up in your own reactivity.


Preparing for Difficult Dialogue

Article  • 3-5 minutes • 1/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3-5 minutes

Effective and connected dialogue requires significant self-awareness, mindfulness, and skill. You can focus on any of these six areas that most often escape your awareness: anchoring and staying grounded; boundaries; thoughts and beliefs; stuckness or attachment; feelings and needs; and requests. Read on for a list of questions to help you focus on how to do that.


Building Trust

Article  • 3 - 5 minutes • 8/2011
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes

How is trust best supported? Do you know what you do to contribute to making it easier or more difficult for others to express the truth (even in the most mundane moments)? Smaller requests can also built trust over time if they're rooted in the present moment, and are specific enough. Learn more about building trust...


When You Are Being "Talked At"

Article  • 5 - 8 minutes • 4/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5 - 8 minutes

Has someone ever talked to you to the extent that you're no longer enjoying it, and you now wonder if they even know you're there? Learn ways to bring in emotional understanding, engage more honestly and open-heartedly, and bridge next steps to the type of conversation that engages everyone's needs.


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