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Express Anger with Responsibility

Article  • 3 - 5 minutes • 9/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes

Anger can bring in judgment and blame. Instead, use anger and frustration to identify what’s important and express what matters to you in a collaborative way.


Self Responsibility

Article  • 6 - 9 minutes • 12/2011
Beginner Skill Level
Article
6 - 9 minutes

Being self-responsible is about empowerment — via noticing what is potentially in our locus of control, getting to know ourselves better, looking at our own role in how we experience life, and making conscious choices to act within our own power. This requires us to be mindful in relating our stories to our needs. Read on for more on this, and the various pifalls within thinking about self responsibility.


Laughter, IPNB and Empathy

Article  • 3 - 5 minutes • 10/2018
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes

Sometimes even a very skilled empathy practicitioner can go into offering a non-empathic response, even when asked for empathy.  Why?  One reason could be that our brains might be less receptive because of unseen forces that affect our brain and relationship with others.  This article speaks to the deeper "why" and also to one thing we could do to turn it around...


The Ultimate Romance

Article  • 6 - 9 minutes • 01/2018
All Skill Levels
Article
6 - 9 minutes

For the ultimate romance to unfold, as an expression of your care for how your words and actions affect others, prioritize digging into your inner work before addressing conflict with them.  This means doing the inner work necessary to get to the root of the issue, which can bring bigger shifts, more aliveness, love, creativity, inspiration and compassion.  This doesn't mean letting the other person get away with unhealthy behaviour.


Are You Living Your True Potential?

Article  • 5-8 minutes • 01/2010
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5-8 minutes

How can we live up to our true potential, a life filled with relationships and experiences that truly meet our needs? In this article, Mary offers us a way to bring about inner transformation that can lead to seeing ourselves, others and life differently -- for greater agency, empowerment and choice.


Awareness of Marginalization Can Support Connection

Article  • 7 - 11 minutes • 8/2017
Intermediate Skill Levels
Article
7 - 11 minutes

With abundant evidence that most people have unconscious biases against people --even when that bias runs counter to their own values-- there's a strong chance you recreate this disconnect with people far more often than you recognize. So even with a high degree of NVC skills you may behave in a way that seems "NVC" but also reproduces the painful patterns that marginalized people all-too-often experience. Read on for ways to transform pitfalls of NVC into more reliable connection.


Expressing Our Pain Without Blame

Article  • 4 - 6 minutes • 08/2011
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes

The more we can stay present with our hurt, and own our interpretations, we are more likely to express what's important to us without blame and also to become resilient. From there, the listener can have more space to offer their full presence and empathy. Read on for more.


Angry and Taken Advantage of

Article  • 4-6 minutes • 6/2018
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
4-6 minutes

Finding your power in seemingly powerless situations doesn't mean denying what happened, your feelings, your needs, nor the behavior of others that didn't meet needs. It does mean reexamining those situations with the intention to compassionately look for your contribution and for clues to your hidden perceptual biases. Read on to learn about about finding these clues, and more.


Secure Differentiation

Article  • 4 - 6 minutes • 1/2019
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes

Differentiation is being who you are in the presence of who they are. Its a process of connecting to and honoring your own experience, acting in integrity with your values, and engaging in collaboration with others to meet needs. If you're happier when you are not in an intimate relationship you may have developed your individuality but likely have difficulty with differentiation. Learn core skills and behaviors that support differentiation.


An Invitation to Resonance: The Practice of Nonviolent Communication

Article  • 10 - 15 minutes • 11/2017
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
10 - 15 minutes

Sometimes there are moments when empathy has no effect at all on one another.  Why?  One reason could be that our brains might be less receptive because of unseen forces that affect our nervous system and relationship with others.


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