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NVC Resources on Responsibility

Fear of Negative Consequences

Fear of Negative Consequences

Fear of Negative Consequences

with Miki Kashtan

Audio • 8 minutes •

Audio
8 minutes

Miki responds to a participant’s question concerning fear of consequences when speaking with a manager at work. In this excerpt, she delves into the topic of choosing to inhabit nonviolence in the workplace, affirming that fear and nonviolence are incompatible, and that nonviolence is a powerful alternative to our habitual Fight, Flight, Freeze responses.

W.A.I.T: Practices For Presence And Patience

W.A.I.T: Practices For Presence And Patience

W.A.I.T: Practices For Presence And Patience

with Jim & Jori Manske

Practice Exercise • 2 - 3 minutes •

Practice Exercise
2 - 3 minutes

With these practices make space before reacting to emotion or external stimulus. This can enable your capacity to respond from your self-connection to universally shared values. With practice you can create the capacity to temporarily put impulsiveness aside, in the service of connection with yourself and others, and in service of more informed and effective strategies.

Developing Compassion for Humans, Animals and All Life (4 Session Course)

Developing Compassion for Humans, Animals and All Life (4 Session Course)

Developing Compassion for Humans, Animals and All Life (4 Session Course)

with LoraKim Joyner, DVM

Audio • 5 - 7 hours •

Audio
5 - 7 hours

Join LoraKim Joyner to investigate how merging science, the social and emotional intelligence of humans, animals and other species and Nonviolent Communication can bring a greater sense of belonging and wholeness to your life, and care and justice to the lives of others.

Listening as an Essential Leadership Skill

Listening as an Essential Leadership Skill

Listening as an Essential Leadership Skill

with Lorraine Aguilar

Audio • 8 minutes •

Audio
8 minutes

Lorraine Aguilar perceives NVC-based listening to be an essential skill to cultivate for success in the business world. A key exercise for building your listening muscle is to work with your judgments of others by translating those judgments from “What’s wrong with them?” to “What's important to me?”

Are You Living Your True Potential?

Are You Living Your True Potential?

Are You Living Your True Potential?

with Mary Mackenzie

Article • 5-8 minutes •

Article
5-8 minutes

How can we live up to our true potential, a life filled with relationships and experiences that truly meet our needs? In this article, Mary offers us a way to bring about inner transformation that can lead to seeing ourselves, others and life differently -- for greater agency, empowerment and choice.

Mourning Our Losses

Mourning Our Losses

Mourning Our Losses

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Mourning enables us to heal the pain and gain clarity about how to meet our needs in the present moment.

Be What You Want in the World

Be What You Want in the World

Be What You Want in the World

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: It's up to us to get our own needs met. Mary offers some encouraging tips to do just that!

Avoiding “Right Fights”

Avoiding “Right Fights”

Avoiding “Right Fights”

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Ready to start a fight because you're right? Consider another strategy.

Protective Use of Force

Protective Use of Force

Protective Use of Force

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Mary explains the NVC principle known as the "protective use of force."

Being Open to Feeling

Being Open to Feeling

Being Open to Feeling

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Most of us have been conditioned to withhold the expression of our feelings to some degree. Mary offers a tip to de-stigmatize our feelings and relax into our humanness.

The Power of Empathy

The Power of Empathy

The Power of Empathy

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: When someone is in pain and lashing out, might be a time when empathy is needed most. Empathizing in these moments can be very challenging. Mary offers a few words of ecouragement for these situations.

Don't Take It Personally

Don't Take It Personally

Don't Take It Personally

with Rachelle Lamb

Article • 10 - 15 minutes •

Article
10 - 15 minutes

When we don't like what someone is saying to us, sometimes people encourage us to hear their needs, and "not take it personally" -- and we're inclined to agree. Could "not taking it personally" close our hearts and awareness to others, life and ourselves? Rachelle Lamb invites us to take a closer look at what it's like when we attend to the situation from our hearts, and skillfully reflect upon...

Five Tips For Reading The News Without Losing It

Five Tips For Reading The News Without Losing It

Five Tips For Reading The News Without Losing It

with Oren Jay Sofer

Article • 5 - 8 minutes •

Article
5 - 8 minutes

Is it dangerous for large numbers of people to be absorbing disturbing news alone? Given the intensity of our times, making choices based on conscious awareness and discernment in relation to current events is essential for our ability to stay engaged, and to also wisely meet our collective challenges with agency and power. Here are five tips for how to help stay sane in relation to the news...

Taking on the World: How to Become a Change Agent (12 Session Course)

Taking on the World: How to Become a Change Agent (12 Session Course)

Taking on the World: How to Become a Change Agent (12 Session Course)

with Miki Kashtan

Audio • 14 - 18 hours •

Audio
14 - 18 hours

Are you eager to translate your vision of a world where everyone’s needs matter into a tangible reality? Do you long to discover your unique role in responding to the challenges of our times? If, so join Miki for 12 sessions that will propel you on your way!

Your Resonant Self: Transforming the Critical Inner Voice (6 Session Course)

Your Resonant Self: Transforming the Critical Inner Voice (6 Session Course)

Your Resonant Self: Transforming the Critical Inner Voice (6 Session Course)

with Sarah Peyton

Audio • 8 - 11 hours •

Audio
8 - 11 hours

Does your inner dialog sound supportive and encouraging - or more like you’re being yelled at by a critical task-master? Gain an understanding of the neuroscience of the left and right hemispheres of the human brain and locate just where this savage inner voice is coming from and how to respond to it with empathy.

What is Leadership?

What is Leadership?

What is Leadership?

with Miki Kashtan

Audio • 51 minutes •

Audio
51 minutes

What specifically is leadership? And why do so many people step back from it? Listen in as Miki shares her experience and thoughts around changing the paradigm of leadership, as well as the role – and challenges – of using NVC when working for social change.

Anatomy of a Trigger: Change Your Focus and Improve the Outcome

Anatomy of a Trigger: Change Your Focus and Improve the Outcome

Anatomy of a Trigger: Change Your Focus and Improve the Outcome

with Mary Mackenzie

Article • 7-10 minutes •

Article
7-10 minutes

When you or anyone is upset, what could underneath the trigger? There may be more than is immediately visible. This article invites us to explore what it looks like to inquire deeper, take self-responsibility, examine our assumptions, attachments, interpretations, and "certainties" that could be hidden behind the needs that are aching to be attended to...

The Journey To Living Through Needs, Compassionately And Assertively

The Journey To Living Through Needs, Compassionately And Assertively

The Journey To Living Through Needs, Compassionately And Assertively

with Peggy Smith

Article • 5-8 minutes •

Article
5-8 minutes

Awareness of how we're holding our own and others' needs is important to our development. In learning to value needs, we often go through three stages: passive, aggressive/obnoxious, and assertive/mutual. As we learn and grow, we may relate to the following differently: Whose feelings and needs are important, who is responsible for what, how our choices impact others, and consideration for...

Tips on Making a Request

Tips on Making a Request

Tips on Making a Request

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Make a specific, doable request of at least two people today. Be sure to ask for what you want, not what you don't want. Think of making the request as a gift of opportunity for people to contribute to you.

Being the Change We Seek

Being the Change We Seek

Being the Change We Seek

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Is there something you would like more of in your life right now? Try not to look to other people to provide the kind of experiences you want. Can you think of a way that you can be the change you seek? See if responding to the people the way you would want them to respond to you shifts something. Read on for an example of how.

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