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Lonely Together

Article  • 5 - 7 minutes • 05/2020
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5 - 7 minutes

When conflict or criticism occurs, we can notice two layers of meaning to create connection: the content and the needs the speaker is holding. When we are able to recognize this --and ideally engage open-heartedly, with curiosity, make clear requests, imagining what they want, no matter how their expression was framed -- we have more opportunity to support the longevity of our relationships, and to decrease our loneliness when together.


Inviting Depth in Conversation

Article  • 3 - 5 minutes • 6/2018
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes

Conversation can become more satisfying with depth. Depth is occurs when connection unfolds towards a depth of intimacy, presence, attunement, sensing -- and silent attentive connection where another is attentively seen and heard. Inviting this level of sharing in conversation relies on at least three major elements: attentive silence, the desire to connect and be known, and focus on present moment experience. Learn more about this way of engaging.


Practical Ideas to Keep Workplace Relationships Satisfying

Article  • 4 - 6 minutes • 1/2010
Beginner Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes

Workplace relationships are complex. Each employee brings their unique self to work. Their background, perspective, emotional triggers, and working style. Add to this the dynamics of power relations, and the fact that often workplace communication now takes place at our computer keyboards rather than face-to-face. Sylvia Haskvitz offers practical tips to make today's complex workplace relationships more satisfying and effective.


Compassionate Communication and Empathy’s Awakening

Article  • 20 - 25 minutes • 2005
Beginner Skill Level
Article
20 - 25 minutes

John Cunningham provides support to deepen your understanding and practice of NVC, including a sketch of the participatory and onlooker modes of consciousness, lists of feelings, needs and sample dialogues.


The Power of Silent Empathy

Article  • 1 page • Circa 2007
Beginner Skill Level
Article
1 page

When Rita first learned about silent empathy she didn't know how soon she'd try it out. She was visiting her daughter and making comments about her life, analyzing her behavior, giving her unsolicited view on everything.


From Obedience and Shame to Freedom and Belonging: Transforming Patriarchal Paradigms of Child-Rearing in the Age of Global Warming

Article  • 33 pages • 6/2017
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
33 pages

What will it take to reclaim our fundamental relatedness with all things alive, surrender our attempts to control nature, and find a way of living that averts or mitigates the worst possible catastrophes awaiting us while it's still possible?


Connection Requests: Motivations and Examples Article

Article  • 6 - 9 minutes • Circa 2005
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
6 - 9 minutes

 Connection requests focus on the quality of connection between people instead of on any particular strategy or solution. While the core motivation for a connection request may be connection with the other person, varied internal states and needs may help guide us toward different types of connection requests. Self-connection and understanding of our motivation in making a connection request can therefore greatly support our capacity for discovering and articulating what specifically we want from the other person that we believe may contribute to connection.


Celebrating Mourning

Article  • 3 - 5 minutes • 2005
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes

In a recent vacation in a Mexican village, I was surprised to find myself in the midst of a community in mourning. Two days before I came, a 21-year-old girl had died in a car accident. Everyone in the town knew her and was openly affected by her death.


It Takes a Community to Raise a Relationship

Article  • 5 - 8 minutes • 2005
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
5 - 8 minutes
Using his own life experience, Eric explores why we need support from others, what support might look like, and what blocks us from asking for support for our relationships.

The Price of Nice

Article  • 12 - 16 minutes • 2000
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
12 - 16 minutes

Have you been nice? Well then you must be enjoying the reward: depression, intermittent explosiveness, job meaninglessness, ambiguous anxiety, low resentment and subtle self hate. The antidotes: honesty, passion and compassion.


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