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Tragic Expressions of Unmet Needs

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer tip: The phrase “tragic expressions of unmet needs” is used to convey how often we do things that aren’t likely to meet our needs. It’s not bad, it’s tragic -- because it won’t help us meet our needs. Acknowledging this, we can then consider a different approach that's more likely to lead to satisfying results. Read on for three examples of where this may apply in your life.


Commitment

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 10/28/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
10/28/2005

Do you ever give up on disagreements, temporarily or permanently? Do you ever disengage from conflict because you’re certain the situation can't be resolved? Sometimes this applies. And consider how you may be giving up too soon, which decreases the possibility for resolution. This speaks to your level of commitment. How committed are you to valuing another’s needs and to finding resolution?


How Do I Begin Bringing Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to Work?

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Video • 5 minutes • 05/19/2016
Beginner Skill Level
Video
5 minutes
05/19/2016

CNVC Certified Trainer Jeff Brown explains that it's truly easy to begin bringing NVC to your workplace. Start internally and avoid using NVC as a structured or "right" way to speak.


Enjoying Your Life

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 11/23/2022
Beginner Skill level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
11/23/2022

Trainer Tip: The surest way to enjoy life is to do things that meet your needs. If you don’t enjoy a particular activity, consider the need you hope to meet by doing it. For instance, for each item you want to do consider the needs you're trying to meet. Connect to the joy of that need. Then for each ask: “How would I feel if I delayed finishing this item?”. Consider which items you want to continue, pause, or reprioritize. This can help increase life enjoyment.


Loving Our Role as Parent

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: When we love a child there's a contribution we can provide in helping them go their own way successfully, in big ways and small.


Don't Just Feel Your Emotions

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • 04/2019
Beginner
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
04/2019

To keep our life energy moving and growing we can find the resources to welcome and accompany various parts of ourselves with compassion and love -- as though these parts are very young children.  And even if these parts contain difficult emotions...


Oh No, Not Again!

Video • 1 hour, 21 minutes • 5/27/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
1 hour, 21 minutes
5/27/2022

How many times do we fall into the same hole, hit the same wall, get entangled into the same patterns? There seem to be hidden forces within us that keep unconsciously leading us, again and again, into the same melody of our lives. In this session, we will try to see our life-journey as a whole and rehabilitate our capacity to be in this existence of ours more directly and fully.


Understanding and Transforming Anger

Article • 6 - 9 minutes • 01/2021
Beginner Skill Level
Article
6 - 9 minutes
01/2021

Anger can alert us that a need may be threatened. When anger lives in someone as a well-worn habit, it arises from a place of dissociation from one’s heart and is entangled with misinterpretations, a deep sense of threat, a history of pain, and social conditioning that isn’t life-serving. Read on for how intention, mindfulness, and specific actions can change that habit.


Grief and Mourning for the World

Article • 5-7 minutes • 10/2020
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5-7 minutes
10/2020

As you witness injustices in the world, tension, anger, hopelessness, despair and more, may rise up in you. These feelings may lead to reactive thinking that doesn't contribute to healing nor wise action. Mourning is a universal need. If your culture pushed away grief and its emotional expression, you may have habits that block your access to the aliveness of grief. Read on for ways to give grief the space and support it needs.


Understanding The Difference Between Life-Serving Boundaries And Threats

Practice Exercise • 4 - 6 minutes • 12/30/2021
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
4 - 6 minutes
12/30/2021

When someone's behavior costs us, we may attempt to negotiate as much as possible. After some rounds of this, if there's no change we may reach a tolerance limit. So we may set a boundary for self care and clarity about what's unworkable. But depending on intentions and the way its said, this may or may not be a punishment to get even. Here, clarity about intentions, feelings, needs, actions and dialogue may support us.


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