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Observing without Judgment

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: Today, identify the facts, without adding your ideas about why people behave in certain ways. Then consider connecting with the person about what was going on with them. You will find that the more you observe life without judgment and evaluation, the more open you will be to hearing and connecting with other people.


The Ogre and the Water of Life

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Audio • 48 minutes • 2010
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
48 minutes
2010

Listen to three interwoven tales of love, vulnerability, courage and healing by CNVC Certified Trainer and Storyteller Leo Sofer.


Groups Tip Series: The Value of Groups

Trainer Tip • 3 minutes • 07/06/2014
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
3 minutes
07/06/2014

Listen to Miki talk about the value of participating in groups, recognizing our inherent nature to do so, how industrialization has hindered our skills and the value of participating in a time when it's most needed.


Simple Self-Empathy Tools to Help You Enjoy the Holidays

Audio • 39 minutes • 12/2011
Introductory Skill Level
Audio
39 minutes
12/2011

Join CNVC Certified Trainer Mary Mackenzie to learn a few of her tried-and-true simple Self-Empathy techniques, especially focused on the challenges of the holiday season.


Agreements, Consequences and Punishment

Audio • 9 minutes • 05/2009
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
9 minutes
05/2009

In this short but provocative audio, Miki Kashtan talks about agreements, making a vital distinction between the natural consequences of unmet agreements and punishment. She provides information about how to balance our current state of needs associated with our previous agreements.


Marshall Rosenberg's Vision of Social Change

Article • 12 - 18 minutes • 12/2017
All Skill Levels
Article
12 - 18 minutes
12/2017

What could be, more often than not, overlooked when we think about or represent NVC or Marshall Rosenberg's work?  This article busts some commonly held ideas and approaches to NVC.  It challenges us to widen the lens of what it really means to be "life-serving", or speaking and hearing the "language of life".  And it also speaks to how thinking can deepen feeling and relatedness...


Hidden Needs

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • Circa 2007
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
Circa 2007

Ask the Trainer: "I've been feeling frustrated and angry quite a bit lately over very simple things. Can you help me get to the root of my hidden needs?"


Love in the Time of COVID-19

Article • 7 - 11 minutes • 11/2020
All Skill Levels
Article
7 - 11 minutes
11/2020

Love keeps the thread of connection intact in times when all around us we see the human fabric becoming threadbare. When we dig deep with love into guessing what others care about that had given rise to their actions, it changes us. It brings us closer to understanding the incomprehensible -- and closer to vision, imagination, humility, curiosity, commonality, and loving action. Read on for more on applying this to people we deem "conspiracy theorists", and those who are on the other end of the political divide.


Exercise For Saying "No" And Staying Connected

Practice Exercise • 1 - 2 minutes • 12/23/2021
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
1 - 2 minutes
12/23/2021

Ever have a hard time saying "no" to someone, or feel obligated to say yes? Here's an exercise that can help you notice where you are placing yourself as someone who "has to" say yes; the needs in the other person making the request; what you want to say "yes" to (regarding your needs and theirs) by saying "no"; what prevents you from saying "yes"; plus your request and how you might express it.


3 Simple Steps to Set The Boundaries You Need

Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 07/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes
07/2019

Resentment is one sign that you need a boundary. You can set a boundary by requesting the behavior that would be most meaningful to you. Include why that behavior would be meaningful to you and share vulnerably. Then notice if you are holding any blame and ask yourself, “What do I need to feel underneath my blame?” If you can take responsibility for those feelings with compassion, the other person is more likely to collaborate.


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