What Are Enemy Images?
Audio
5 minutes
11/2006
In this compelling interview with Liv Larsson, CNVC Certified Trainer from Sweden, the NVC concept of enemy images — how they develop, what they represent and how they affect our relationships with others and self — is explored.
NVC Life Hacks 19: How to Give Values-Based Feedback
NVC Life Hacks 19: How to Give Values-Based Feedback
NVC Life Hacks 19: How to Give Values-Based Feedback
Video
6 minutes
09/27/2019
In this Life Hack, we take a closer look at 'values-based' feedback and give you 7 practical tips that will help you provide useful feedback.
How to Use NVC with Talkative Friends
Trainer Tip
21 minutes
07/2008
Ask the Trainer: "Could you explore why people 'talk too much' and how I could connect with them and myself empathically when I'm also talking too much?"
Interrupt Emotional Shut Down
Article
3- 5 minutes
09/2020
In times of stress, some part of you may still hold the belief that you can't be present for the stressor and survive. Some part of you may believe you have to go away. There are three things you can consider when attempting to intervene with the reactive pattern of shutting down: how you relate to the shutting down, access to self-confidence, and engagement. Read on for more.
Tips for the Road Series: Tip 3. Get Empathy before Making Important Decisions
Tips for the Road Series: Tip 3. Get Empathy before Making Important Decisions
Tips for the Road Series: Tip 3. Get Empathy before Making Important Decisions
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
01/2016
Eric explains how we can often avoid regret by getting empathy before making important decisions.
Catch Unhealthy Relationship Dynamics Early
Article
4-6 minutes
05/2019
Little negative impacts can become big when left unattended. Watch for things like using a sharp tone, choosing not to share something, going along with something when you don’t really want to, trying to convince your partner, impulsively turning away, shrinking, losing access to parts of yourself, hiding, daydreaming about a different life, and judgmental thoughts. Instead, shift the dynamic: take responsibility, provide empathy, and commit to change.
How To Create Supportive Conditions For Sharing Vulnerably
How To Create Supportive Conditions For Sharing Vulnerably
How To Create Supportive Conditions For Sharing Vulnerably
Practice Exercise
5 - 7 minutes
02/11/2022
Sharing more vulnerably provides opportunities for fulfilling connection. As social beings we rely on feedback to see our effect on others. We can get that feedback through body language, facial cues and words. To expand your capacity to share more vulnerably you can create supportive conditions and timing. You can ask for feedback by making in-the-moment requests of others and yourself before and after you share.
Practical Ideas to Keep Workplace Relationships Satisfying
Practical Ideas to Keep Workplace Relationships Satisfying
Practical Ideas to Keep Workplace Relationships Satisfying
Article
4 - 6 minutes
1/2010
Workplace relationships are complex. Each employee brings their unique self to work. Their background, perspective, emotional triggers, and working style. Add to this the dynamics of power relations, and the fact that often workplace communication now takes place at our computer keyboards rather than face-to-face. Sylvia Haskvitz offers practical tips to make today's complex workplace relationships more satisfying and effective.
Acknowledging Our Inner Critic
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005
Trainer Tip: Our inner critic judges ourselves and other people; and it is the most likely to get scared when we begin to make a change. It holds wisdom for us if we are willing to listen. When we acknowledge our inner critic and empathize with its need, we gain insights into ourselves and we clear the way for resolution.
Intention and Effect
Article
12 - 18 minutes
08/2013
When someone expresses upset about our actions, and we focus on our intention being seen and understood (e.g. "I didn’t mean to hurt you”) it doesn't support the speaker in being heard more deeply with care. Here we'll explore this dynamic in a way that supports more clarity and the possibility of greater personal liberation. Read on for more.