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Love Without Conditions, Control or Coercion

Audio • 2 hours, 15 minutes • 02/2008
Advanced Skill Level
Audio
2 hours, 15 minutes
02/2008

In this prerecorded telecourse, Kelly uses humor, stories and practical ideas to help spouses, lovers, friends and parents discover how freedom and autonomy are the basis for all healthy relationships.


The Jackal as a Teacher

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer tip: Why do NVC practitioners sometimes use the jackal as a metaphor in the NVC world? What can it teach us? Read on for more.


Diving Deeper Into the Spiral of Life (6 Session Course)

Audio • 6 hours, 2 minutes • 01/2014
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
6 hours, 2 minutes
01/2014

We invite you to dive into this voyage, where you and Robert will swim ever deeper into the Spiral of Life, coming face-to-face with your divine Life Force – that essential living energy that permeates all.


Taking the First Step

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: If you're doing personal growth work, and changing your behaviors, you may find yourself wanting others to join your efforts with similar levels of enthusiasm. When they don't do so, you may feel frustrated and place judgments on them, thinking they aren't as caring. You'll be less likely to feel disappointed in people if you remind yourself that when you do personal growth work, what needs you are meeting for yourself.


Anger’s Two Kinds of Reactivity

Article • 6 - 9 minutes • 10/2015
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
6 - 9 minutes
10/2015

There's reactive anger - the sudden outbursts of words, temper or action that create a nervous system response in another. And then there's the anger that's a reaction to someone's anger -- a nervous system startle-response. Instead of either of these, we can learn to heal with empathy, look for unequal power dynamics, take responsibility to make repairs, and shift into the clean, life-serving, fully expressed anger and love.


Compassionate Communication and Empathy’s Awakening

Article • 20 - 25 minutes • 2005
Beginner Skill Level
Article
20 - 25 minutes
2005

John Cunningham provides support to deepen your understanding and practice of NVC, including a sketch of the participatory and onlooker modes of consciousness, lists of feelings, needs and sample dialogues.


3 Simple Steps to Set The Boundaries You Need

Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 07/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes
07/2019

Resentment is one sign that you need a boundary. You can set a boundary by requesting the behavior that would be most meaningful to you. Include why that behavior would be meaningful to you and share vulnerably. Then notice if you are holding any blame and ask yourself, “What do I need to feel underneath my blame?” If you can take responsibility for those feelings with compassion, the other person is more likely to collaborate.


Practices For Requesting

Practice Exercise • 2 - 3 minutes • 1/17/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
2 - 3 minutes
1/17/2022

Practice making requests for feedback, clarity, and action. Opportunities for making requests might be when you expected something different from what you got, were treated undesirably, and noticed inner constriction or reactivity. Identify observations, feelings, and values to support finding the request. Ensure your request states what you want, is specific, names the present-tense action, and that you're open to feedback.


Punishment, Needs and the Protective Use of Force

Trainer Tip • 8 minutes • Circa 2007
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
8 minutes
Circa 2007

Ask the Trainer: For many years I have been using crime and punishment (reward and consequences) to discipline because it was the only thing I knew. I knew deep in my heart it was alienating me...


Connecting to Self

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 03/01/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
03/01/2005

Trainer Tip: Q: How do we get the love we want? A: Ask for it.


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