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Receiving Appreciation

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: Acknowledge that the person’s life has been affected by your actions and enjoy the feeling of warmth you have when you contribute to a life. Try verbally acknowledging how you feel when you hear that you have enhanced her life.


The Shadow Side of Autonomy

Article • 8 - 12 minutes • 01/2018
All Skill Levels
Article
8 - 12 minutes
01/2018

Could our "need for autonomy" be getting in the way of "partnership consciousness" (as NVC is sometimes called). Could "autonomy" also block healthy relationships with not only ourselves and with others, but also with the planet? This article invites us to consider how "autonomy" may colour our NVC practice at the peril of our critical values. Values such as our care for impact, shared responsibility, interdependence, compassion, consideration, and more...


Ego, Mind, and Culture

Article • 10 - 15 minutes • 11/2013
All Skill Levels
Article
10 - 15 minutes
11/2013

The “mind” or our “ego” are often depicted as a static entity, an unchangable part of human nature, and as obstacles or negative parts of ourselves to overcome. This view creates maligning, a split within us, while remaining invisibly part and parcel of authority-based societies --the dominant culture and institutions into which we are born. Instead, I want to advocate an integration of reason and emotion, mind and heart, plus self and others.


Change Your Response to Conflict — Change Your Life (4 Session Course)

Audio • 5 hours, 12 minutes • 02/26/2013
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
5 hours, 12 minutes
02/26/2013

Listen to this introductory 4-session Mediate Your Life telecourse recording to change your response to conflict and change your life.


Tips for the Road Series: Tip 10. Take It to the Trees

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 01/2016
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
01/2016

One of the most important things you can do to live a meaningful and rewarding life filled with vitality is reclaim your emotions. Eric offers a tip to reclaim your emotions, rescuing you from the numb and deadening state of “fine."


Considering the Needs of Other People

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 06/01/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
06/01/2005

Trainer Tip: Mary expands on one of the basic principles of Nonviolent Communication: valuing everyone’s needs equally.


Move in to Conflict - Don't Back Up!

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: Have you ever noticed how often we back up when we find ourselves in a conflict? Or how much we try to pull away when someone is angry or in emotional pain?


A Focus on Needs

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

There are endless ways to meet our needs. Conflict occurs when we argue over strategies. When we actively value everyone’s needs, we foster openness and deeper connection in our relationships. Today look for opportunities to focus on needs in order to resolve an issue with at least one person.


Intimacy With Fear

Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 05/2014
All Skill Levels
Article
3 - 5 minutes
05/2014

If we befriend our fear we cannot be paralyzed by it. Every fear that arises is a moment to increase our capacity. Fear is connected to something that is precious to us. We also can see what we do to numb our pain and how we try to avoid it. This knowledge can help us to choose healthier strategies to deal with our fears.


Defusing Anger

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 01/25/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
01/25/2005

Trainer Tip: Many of us are afraid of our anger because we haven’t learned how to express it in a way that brings relief or that helps us meet our needs in the situation. Consider a different approach to anger, one that helps you fully express your anger and is more likely to help you meet your needs for relief, to be heard, or to be understood.