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Trauma and Sanctuary

Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 11/2009
All Skill Levels
Article
3 - 5 minutes
11/2009

One clue we have trauma is when we respond in a way we don't want (eg. being reactive, self sabotaging, etc). Even when we have high level NVC skills our trauma-related mechanisms can activate, and we can lose access to well honed NVC skills. Read on for approaches that involve healing trauma, and approaches that involve managing the effects of trauma and preventing additional trauma.


Protective Use of Force with Children

Trainer Tip • 9 minutes • Circa 2007
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
9 minutes
Circa 2007

Ask the Trainer: Can you help me connect with my needs behind the protective use of force I use with my children?


From Obedience and Shame to Freedom and Belonging: Transforming Patriarchal Paradigms of Child-Rearing in the Age of Global Warming

Article • 33 pages • 6/2017
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
33 pages
6/2017

What will it take to reclaim our fundamental relatedness with all things alive, surrender our attempts to control nature, and find a way of living that averts or mitigates the worst possible catastrophes awaiting us while it's still possible?


Do We Stand a Chance?

Article • 5-7 minutes • 09/2020
All Skill Levels
Article
5-7 minutes
09/2020

With a world in crisis, steeped in incomprehensible violence, how do we then live? What, if anything, could turn this around? If we're all dying, let us die loving everyone, including ourselves and our former enemies. Let us come together behind wanting everyone to be free. Let us align means with ends as we envision a world that, against all odds, moves towards working for all of life. Let us dedicate our lives to service, to courage, to speaking truth, and to love.


Silent Empathy

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 11/16/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
11/16/2005

Trainer Tip: Silent empathy can be a powerful way of contributing to someone's life, giving them the gift of our presence.


Self-Empathy Basics

Video • 29 minutes • Circa 2007
Beginner Skill Level
Video
29 minutes
Circa 2007

Mary Mackenzie, an internationally renowned CNVC Certified Trainer, demonstrates two exercises that will help you learn fast “on the run” self-empathy techniques. The video includes practical techniques to guide you toward noticing your physical sensations, feelings and needs.


You Suck At Conflict

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 05/30/2022
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
05/30/2022

Avoiding conflict is an even greater issue than having conflict. Not being as competent at conflict we avoid it. And in many cases that creates more conflict. Conflict is inevitable because we have different perspectives. Conflict is not bad. It is an opportunity for increased connection, intimacy, joy, and creative win-win solutions. Instead of avoiding conflict, we can work on increasing our skill in handling conflict.


Beyond “Yes, And:” Acknowledging the “Oops” and “Ouches”

Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 8/2014
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes
8/2014

How can we respond when we’re horrified by what someone says? How can we deepen our connection to our humanness and authenticity when the impact is hurtful? Read on to see examples of the three steps of "calling out", "calling in", and "calling forth".


Self-Empathy: A Unique Approach

Video • 22 minutes • 05/2011
Beginner Skill Level
Video
22 minutes
05/2011

Watch this video with CNVC Certified Trainer Jim Manske to explore the practice of Self-Empathy through a different lens.  Included is a unique four-step Self-Empathy process that culminates in a focus of gratitude.


Acknowledging Other People’s Reality

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: Even if we don't agree, acknowledging others' realities can help demonstrate that we're including their feelings and needs in the conversation. Creating space for your reality and theirs can also bring a sense of connection, understanding, inclusion, abundance and fullness in life. Try it today. Read on for an example.


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