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Connected Decision Making

Article • 2-3 minutes • 1/2018
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
2-3 minutes
1/2018

If you're stuck when making a decision with someone, it's likely that you've skipped hearing and connecting to one another's needs. Slow down and listen for what's really important underneath the content. This allows you to make decisions that are more fulfilling and harmonious.


Vulnerability as a Spiritual Path

Article • 3 pages • Circa 2005
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
3 pages
Circa 2005

What is a good baby? If you have been raised in a Western culture, chances are you know the answer right away (whether or not you agree with it). A good baby is one that doesn't cry! The training against vulnerability starts very early in life.


Foundational NVC Skills: Requests

Audio • 1 hour, 25 minutes • 11/15/2010
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
1 hour, 25 minutes
11/15/2010

Marshall Rosenberg suggests that there are two requests that are the most transformative to relationships, (1) What’s alive in both of us? and (2) What would make life more wonderful for both of us?  This telecourse recording offers an easy-to-digest overview of how carefully crafted requests inspire joyful relationships.


Differentiating Between Feelings And Faux Feelings

Learning Tool • N/A • 2013
Introductory Skill Level
Learning Tool
N/A
2013

This chart is intended as an aid to translating words that are often confused with feelings. These words imply that someone is doing something to you and generally connote wrongness or blame. To use this list, when somebody says “I’m feeling rejected,” you might translate this as: “Are you feeling scared because you have a need for inclusion?”


Letting People Support Us

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/28/2005
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/28/2005

We all love to contribute to others’ lives. We love to offer support because it meets our own needs for contribution, love, caring, and making a difference. For today, admit that you love to support other people, and that you would like support yourself. Let at least one person contribute to your life today. Read on for a related story.


Demands vs Requests

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
10/2005

Trainer tip: Demands are more likely to limit the possibilities and create distance between people. The trick to asking something as a request is valuing everyone’s needs equally. When you value everyone’s needs equally, then you are more willing to come to solutions that satisfy everyone. It thus opens possibilities and helps build connection.


Meeting Our Need for Trust

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 10/2005
All Skill Levels
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: When you suspect someone is lying, consider how it may be less important what the truth is. Instead, notice whether your need for trust is met. Without blame, nor labelling. you can make specific requests to meet your needs, while also respecting the other person’s needs. Read on for more.


Help for Overwhelm

Article • 3-5 minutes • 11/2019
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
3-5 minutes
11/2019

Reducing overwhelm requires you to reconnect with your authentic choice, be present and compassionate with what's happening, heal trauma, and interrupt the trauma response. Read on for ways that may help you reconnect with your choice, presence and more on trauma.


Knowing Ourselves

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 09/13/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
09/13/2005

Trainer Tip: The question is not what other people think of you, but what you think of yourself. Who are you, really? Take a moment to consider what you value.


NVC Life Hacks 8 : Saying No

Video • 3 minutes • 10/26/2018
Beginner Skill Level
Video
3 minutes
10/26/2018

It can be difficult to be authentic when that means saying no. So how do we say no in a way that invites people to listen? Here are our four top tips for finding the courage to say no.


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