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How to Invite Shared Vulnerability

Article • 3-4 minutes • 8/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3-4 minutes
8/2019

Shared vulnerability can build more intimacy, mutuality, being seen and heard, empathy, or community. Inviting shared vulnerability means earning another’s trust that you can consistently offer attentive, curious, and compassionate listening. Here are four strategies to invite shared vulnerability.


Connection Requests: Motivations and Examples Article

Article • 6 - 9 minutes • Circa 2005
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
6 - 9 minutes
Circa 2005

 Connection requests focus on the quality of connection between people instead of on any particular strategy or solution. While the core motivation for a connection request may be connection with the other person, varied internal states and needs may help guide us toward different types of connection requests. Self-connection and understanding of our motivation in making a connection request can therefore greatly support our capacity for discovering and articulating what specifically we want from the other person that we believe may contribute to connection.


Feelings Are a Response to Our Met or Unmet Needs

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: Our particular needs and expectations in the moment, influences how we feel. So if you are feeling hurt, sad, angry, or disappointed, try to consider what your unmet needs are, and see if there are other ways you can get them met. Today, track how your needs affect your feelings.


Connecting with Someone Who Has Cancer

Trainer Tip • 6 minutes • Circa 2007
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
6 minutes
Circa 2007

Ask the Trainer: I feel overwhelmed thinking of writing to someone with cancer. What can I do?


Specificity Is the Key

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: If you make a specific and doable request as soon as you notice your needs, you'll have a better possibility of getting them met. It's also more likely your request will support the other person to contribute to your life. Make at least one specific, doable request of someone today as soon as you notice your needs.


Integral Awareness and Practice for NVC Practitioners: Deepening NVC with Ken Wilber’s Integral Framework (6 Session Course)

Audio • 7 hours, 30 minutes • 01/2010
Advanced Skill Level
Audio
7 hours, 30 minutes
01/2010

This telecourse recording gives NVC Practitioners a guided tour of Ken Wilber’s work, a meta-theory (theory of theories) that includes as much knowledge and wisdom from as many sources as possible. You will explore how NVC and Integral Framework mesh, overlap and complement each other.


NVC Life Hacks 3: How to Listen

Video • 4 minutes • 03/28/2018
Beginner Skill Level
Video
4 minutes
03/28/2018

In the third in a series on applying NVC to daily life, Shantigarbha follows directly on from Episode 2, showing us that listening isn't a passive activity, and offers five tips for how to improve our listening skills.


From Suffering to Aliveness: Not Fighting Reality

Audio • 26 minutes • 08/16/2014
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
26 minutes
08/16/2014

How we relate to life parallels how we relate to others! Learn how to have a more healthy way of relating to situations and people when your needs are not being met. Bob Wentworth offers some wisdom on moving from suffering to aliveness through not fighting what is.


The Heart and Science of Empathy (5 Session Course)

Audio • 6 - 8 hours • 12/01/2016
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
6 - 8 hours
12/01/2016

Join CNVC Certified Trainer Eric Bowers in journeying through the world of Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) as he expands on the theories and tools from his book Meet Me In Hard-to-Love Places: The Heart and Science of Relationship Success. You'll discover why IPNB and NVC complement each other so well, especially in the powerful practice of Somatic-Based Resonant Empathy.

 


Meeting Our Need for Sexual Expression

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: To reduce defensiveness and hurt feelings when talking to your partner about your sexual needs that haven't been met, keep the conversation focused on your needs, not her lack of skill, and make a very specific request. From there, you can both explore any shared needs, blocks, or support needed to bring you both closer to your needs.


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