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Meeting Our Need for Rest

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 9/23/2022
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
9/23/2022

Trainer Tip: We all have different ways to meet our need for rest. It's important to notice when you need that time. You might know you need rest when you find yourself snapping at people on the phone, when you snap at your cat, or when you ignore your partner. Rather than behave in ways that you might regret, consider doing something that will help you meet your need for rest. Everyone in your life will benefit.


Hearing The Yes Behind The No

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer tip: It's often easy for us to hear rejection when someone says “no” to us. If we focus on the rejection, we may feel hurt and fail to take the time to understand what is going on with them. However, if we focus on their feelings and needs, we're more likely to uncover what they want and what prevents them. To increase success in resolving conflicts and find solutions that work for everyone, hear the “yes” behind their "no".


Prepare for Love (12 Session Course)

Audio • 9 hours, 7 minutes • 10/18/2012
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
9 hours, 7 minutes
10/18/2012

Join Eric Bowers in transforming past relationship pain, coming alive in community and creating thriving relationships. This 12 session Telecourse recording brings together Eric's passions for Nonviolent Communication, Attachment Theory and Interpersonal Neurobiology.


Starting and Maintaining a NVC Practice Group

Article • 2 - 3 minutes • 6/2012
Beginner Skill Level
Article
2 - 3 minutes
6/2012

This article explores ways of starting and maintaining NVC study groups and practice groups. It offers recommended reading support materials and poses questions to consider for structuring and organizing the group.


Greeting the Holidays with an Open, Joyful Heart

Audio • 1 hour, 24 minutes • 12/19/2013
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
1 hour, 24 minutes
12/19/2013

Please join us as we take a look at what disrupts our joy during the holidays… and discuss the delicious possibilities that abound when we declare our intention to "Greet the Holidays with an Open, Joyful Heart."


Finding Worthiness and Belonging

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 03/2020
All Skill Levels
Article
4 - 6 minutes
03/2020

Worthlessness and shame are linked to the idea of not belonging or being unworthy of belonging -- that is, a deep sense of belonging to life, to your sense of self, and to our earth. Compensatory strategies to win worthiness and belonging arise from here and effectively block the very thing it is pursuing. Transformation occurs when there is a critical mass of clarity about the harm of a particular way of thinking and behaving.


Exercise For Saying "No" And Staying Connected

Practice Exercise • 1 - 2 minutes • 12/23/2021
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
1 - 2 minutes
12/23/2021

Ever have a hard time saying "no" to someone, or feel obligated to say yes? Here's an exercise that can help you notice where you are placing yourself as someone who "has to" say yes; the needs in the other person making the request; what you want to say "yes" to (regarding your needs and theirs) by saying "no"; what prevents you from saying "yes"; plus your request and how you might express it.


Blame, Responsibility, And Care

Article • 11 - 16 minutes • 09/15/2022
Advanced Skill Level
Article
11 - 16 minutes
09/15/2022
One NVC principle is "stimulus vs cause" - one may be the stimulus but never the cause of another's feelings. When we're upset this principle can help us express pain without blame. However, when others are upset it's easy to slip into blaming them using this principle. Instead, we can hear their pain with care and heartfelt mourning - without guilt nor defensiveness, and whether or not we agree. All this is important if we're sincerely applying compassion. Read on for more.

An Invitation to Resonance: The Practice of Nonviolent Communication

Article • 10 - 15 minutes • 11/2017
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
10 - 15 minutes
11/2017

Sometimes there are moments when empathy has no effect at all on one another.  Why?  One reason could be that our brains might be less receptive because of unseen forces that affect our nervous system and relationship with others.


Finding Courage

Article • 2 - 4 minutes • 1/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Article
2 - 4 minutes
1/2019

Telling yourself to be a certain way or have more of a certain quality (like courage), is a set-up for self-criticism and possibly freezing or avoiding. Instead, access effective action by asking yourself questions like: "If I could be or have that, what actions would be different inside or out?" "If I could be or have that, what needs would be met and knowing those are the needs, what could I do or ask for that would meet those needs?"


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