Parenting Series: Listening for the Needs
Video
15 minutes
2005
Using her own and participants' examples, Inbal illuminates parents on where they might be struggling with connecting to their children's needs, especially in situations where the children are responding to the parent's request.
Thank You: Finding the Gift in Everything That Happens
Thank You: Finding the Gift in Everything That Happens
Thank You: Finding the Gift in Everything That Happens
Audio
1 hour, 11 minutes
11/29/2015
Jim and Jori Manske share strategies for employing gratitude to create more joy in life, jettisoning the fear of asking for what you want, and welcoming feedback no matter how it is delivered.
Tips for the Road Series: Tip 6. Ask to Understand
Tips for the Road Series: Tip 6. Ask to Understand
Tips for the Road Series: Tip 6. Ask to Understand
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
01/2016
Who does not want to be understood? In Tip #6, Eric shows you how to deepen connection and trust by checking your understanding with the person you are conversing with.
As Things Get Worse
Article
20 - 30 minutes
12/30/2021
As we head towards impending collapse the relative ease, comfort and freedom of the global north will be harder to maintain. Because of growing anxiety including from people with systemic power, we can anticipate increasing attempts at authoritarian control over the population. We can see what's occurring now as dry run practice for what's coming soon. What may help us: finding choice, knowing when to choose death, and walking towards community and life.
How I Continue to Mess Up Being an Ally
Article
5 - 8 minutes
06/2020
Working for racial justice is a shift in perspective—a shift in understanding and empathy that leads to a change in our actions: to listen instead of talk, to follow instead of lead, to yield rather than dominate. And to accept that I will continue to mess up. Part of working to undo racism is having the humility to know when our own understanding is limited. Read on for more this, and how it relates to meditation -- plus personal and collective liberation.
Moving from Fault to Cause: Looking for Systemic Solutions to White Supremacy
Moving from Fault to Cause: Looking for Systemic Solutions to White Supremacy
Moving from Fault to Cause: Looking for Systemic Solutions to White Supremacy
Article
13 - 19 minutes
09/2017
We can see throughout many examples in history that when we look for "who" is at fault, and thereby seek social change through shaming that person (or that group), it tends to lead to disastrous long term consequences. Even if it works in the short term. Instead, if we want to end cycles of violence we can seek to understand systemic causes and context of individuals' behaviour. And from there, look for solutions that stem from this understanding.
Living NVC
Video
1 hour
2008
Mair Alight and Carol Chase show, through their interaction with each other, a living model of how NVC deepens friendships. They also provide information on why giraffes and jackals were originally chosen as the NVC mascots.
Intention and Effect
Article
12 - 18 minutes
08/2013
When someone expresses upset about our actions, and we focus on our intention being seen and understood (e.g. "I didn’t mean to hurt you”) it doesn't support the speaker in being heard more deeply with care. Here we'll explore this dynamic in a way that supports more clarity and the possibility of greater personal liberation. Read on for more.
Getting Past the Parenting "Shoulds": Compassionate Parenting Starts With Self-Acceptance
Getting Past the Parenting "Shoulds": Compassionate Parenting Starts With Self-Acceptance
Getting Past the Parenting "Shoulds": Compassionate Parenting Starts With Self-Acceptance
Practice Exercise
3 - 5 minutes
11/16/2021
Without self-acceptance any attempt at growth and transformation, even while parenting, can easily become a path to self-judgments and another yardstick against which to measure ourselves as falling short. Instead, we can practice 1 minute a day or more, or while doing other tasks, to develop the self-compassion and self-acceptance needed to grow both new habits and our capacity to meet our children with calm and compassion.
Empathy: An In-depth Study
Audio
23 minutes
02/2008
In this audio recording, Sylvia Haskvitz, veteran CNVC Certified Trainer, offers an in-depth discussion of the Nonviolent Communication process of empathy.