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Tips for the Road Series: Tip 3. Get Empathy before Making Important Decisions

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 01/2016
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
01/2016

Eric explains how we can often avoid regret by getting empathy before making important decisions.


Keep It Real, Warts and All

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 05/30/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
05/30/2022

Our craving for love, acceptance, and approval can lead us to show only parts of ourselves and hide others. This lack of authenticity breeds disconnection and mistrust, leading to those very needs not being met. Once I accept myself, being authentic is easier. And then people in my life can love me for who I really am, warts and all.


The Power of Authenticity + Care

Article • 9 - 13 minutes • 04/2019
All Skill Levels
Article
9 - 13 minutes
04/2019

When we're on the receiving end of pain-stimulating assumptions, a microaggression, or prejudice --when we're reactive and resultingly have self-doubt, guilt or shame in ourselves-- is it possible to be intensely authentic while holding care for everyone in the situation? Can we effectively do this even as a third party witnesses to these things? Self-empathy, empathy, and a commitment to authenticity have become essential tools I need to keep sharpened in my toolbox if I am to show up and do the work I value in this world.


Connecting Feelings and Needs

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 11/02/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
11/02/2005

Trainer Tip: When we connect our feelings to our needs, we put ourselves in a postion to get our needs met and mourn when they aren't met. Here's a practical tip you can practice daily to improve the quality of your life.


Vulnerability as a Spiritual Path

Article • 3 pages • Circa 2005
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
3 pages
Circa 2005

What is a good baby? If you have been raised in a Western culture, chances are you know the answer right away (whether or not you agree with it). A good baby is one that doesn't cry! The training against vulnerability starts very early in life.


Distinguishing Universal Needs from Strategies

Trainer Tip • 10 - 15 minutes • 10/15/2020
All Skill Levels
Trainer Tip
10 - 15 minutes
10/15/2020

In this book excerpt, Kathleen and Jared offer a path to reach deeper clarity, distinguishing between universal needs and strategies.


Making Requests to Enrich Our Lives

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 9/23/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
9/23/2022

Trainer Tip: When you make a request of someone, you don't diminish your relationship; you enhance it. If you receive a "no" to your request, consider brainstorming a different strategy that would meet your needs. It isn’t a sign of weakness to clarify what you would like. It helps you commit to living a full and joyful life. Look for opportunities to clarify your requests.


Offering Presence For Repetitive Fears

Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 9/24/2021
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes
9/24/2021

Three things can be helpful to practice when you want to contribute to someone caught in repetitive fears: self empathy, allowing grief for what you wish was true and is not, and empathy for their difficulty. You can also ask them what's helpful.


Daily Self-Empathy Practice

Audio • 11 minutes • 11/2/2016
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
11 minutes
11/2/2016

Want to expand your needs vocabulary, and build your capacity to identify needs — even when you’ve been triggered? Check out Mary’s powerful teaching on Self-Empathy.


The Power of Empathy

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 05/28/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
05/28/2005

Trainer Tip: When someone is in pain and lashing out, might be a time when empathy is needed most. Empathizing in these moments can be very challenging. Mary offers a few words of ecouragement for these situations.


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