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Persisting vs. Demanding

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 12/21/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
12/21/2005

Trainer Tip: Persisting without demanding is the art of what Marshall Rosenberg fondly called "Dogging for our needs." We can learn to not give up on our needs and at the same time, refrain from demanding they be met.


Meeting Our Need for Order

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/29/2021
Beginner Skill level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/29/2021

Trainer Tip: Someone’s strategy for meeting needs may look different from yours, but it doesn’t mean they aren’t meeting them. This can happen when they appear to be messy and disorganized, but from their perspective they have it organized. It's just less apparent to you how they have organized it. Read on for a related anecdote.


Dealing with Loss: Engaging with Someone’s Grief for the World

Video • 9 minutes • 02/22/2018
Beginner Skill Level
Video
9 minutes
02/22/2018

When faced with someone’s grief for the world, how do you engage with them in a way that is informed? In this session, Kristin suggests exploring what they might be grieving… what they’re afraid of losing… and what it is that they love.


Contemplative Practice For Spiritual Insight

Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 9/29/2021
Advanced Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes
9/29/2021

A structured and clear contemplative practice can start with calming the body, heart, and mind for 20 minutes. Next, it contains at least three key elements: body awareness, clarifying what you already know, and consistent sustained attention. Celebrate and note insights, or any expanded perspective that pops into your awareness. Set an intention to notice these things in daily life and to practice further.


Connected Decision Making

Article • 2-3 minutes • 1/2018
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
2-3 minutes
1/2018

If you're stuck when making a decision with someone, it's likely that you've skipped hearing and connecting to one another's needs. Slow down and listen for what's really important underneath the content. This allows you to make decisions that are more fulfilling and harmonious.


Strengthening Your Empathy Muscle

Video • 1 hour, 7 minutes • 3/7/2022
All Skill Levels
Video
1 hour, 7 minutes
3/7/2022

Jori and Jim Manske explore strengthening your empathy "muscle" for your own well being. Empathy can be a means to strengthen your own resilience, as well as being present for another person.


Trauma and Sanctuary

Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 11/2009
All Skill Levels
Article
3 - 5 minutes
11/2009

One clue we have trauma is when we respond in a way we don't want (eg. being reactive, self sabotaging, etc). Even when we have high level NVC skills our trauma-related mechanisms can activate, and we can lose access to well honed NVC skills. Read on for approaches that involve healing trauma, and approaches that involve managing the effects of trauma and preventing additional trauma.


The Compass - Taking Responsibility in the Face of Guilt and Judgment

Audio • 1 hour, 3 minutes • 03/21/2015
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
1 hour, 3 minutes
03/21/2015

The Compass – Arnina Kashtan's in-depth transformational process – is specifically designed to support you in reliably deepening your understanding of your own and others' conditioning, and finding ways to reclaim your full connection with yourself.


Victims of Domestic Violence Can Experience Empowerment Through Self-Validation and Self-Empathy

Article • 6 - 9 minutes • 07/2020
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
6 - 9 minutes
07/2020

In pandemic many are asked to stay home. If we are experiencing violence at home we're also most at risk of harm or death if we leave. There are also less visible pieces at work. In this situation, acknowledging our pain, needs and experience can lighten the internal load to meet what is real, and claim our truth. We can do the same for our kids. This can open more pathways forward, and provide strength to leave when its more viable.


The Top Five Deal Breakers in Relationships

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: When considering your "deal breakers" consider what you want from a relationship rather than how it will look. For instance, maybe my need for abundance can be met by someone who is independently wealthy, so he doesn’t have to “have a good job”. When you shift your focus from strategies to needs, you may be pleasantly surprised what the universe brings. Read on for more.


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